Who is Bee?
I have a B.S. degree in Clinical/Community Psychology & an M.A. degree in Counseling Psychology. I specialized in rehabilitation counseling, primarily helping people who were for whatever reason derailed from their norms and supporting them in finding a new normal that works for them. While in school for those degrees I held several other jobs. I have worked cleaning people’s homes, at a greenhouse, a laundromat, restaurants, offices, school programs/daycares/buses, etc. I also have two certificates for training as a massage therapist and a medical massage therapist. I am a level I Reiki professional. I have studied Astrology and am able to interpret astrological natal charts.
My goal is to help individuals find their strengths and support them in their self development through major life changes. Using tools like astrology and tarot for self guided self development ensures that individuals are driving their change not only building a sense of empowerment but also control in their lives as they move forward. And those are the tools I like, they may not be your jam, and that’s ok! You bee you; I’ll bee me.
Why Start BrilliantlyBee?
I always dreamed of being a mom. I dreamed of the children I’d have and the things we’d do together. The lessons I’d teach them and the impact they’d impart on the world. After getting the gift of being a step parent for a few years (about five actually) I was pregnant with Axl. I thought I knew exactly what was going to change and how I would handle it. (Adorably & blissfully ignorant to reality.)
He was born and instantly I felt disconnected from my life before 12:30am on October 12th, 2016. He was all I could see, his little head of thick black hair and those full little lips & cheeks. I’ll spare you the nitty gritty but suffice it to say I hadn’t properly prepared myself for anything. I had worked with kids & parents in homes, schools, clinics, & hospitals; I thought I knew all the ins and outs. I did not and continue to not.
I marinated in the advice of anything I could get my hands on, listening to anyone with something to share. There is a critical step between listening to advice and following that advice; evaluation. I don’t recall ever stopping and really evaluating what my personal expectations, goals, hopes, fears were. I didn’t think deeply about how I’d feel about working/daycare or staying at home. I just assumed that would all work out as things usually do and I would be able to flow with it as usual.
Nope. As it turned out, I am more passionate about motherhood than I’d thought, how could I have known really? It has made me stubborn and willing to go to war like nothing ever has before. It’s churned me up and spit me out a completely different person. All that time in school I spent feverishly learning so I could have a strong & successful career. Yet now, I am living a life I couldn’t have seen coming, armed with a Masters degree and matching student debt.
Putting the pieces of me back together has been a long process that I fought through the last few years especially. It just seemed unfair to me that the person I was before was just a shadow behind this new Momma me. I still liked that other me, that pre-mom me. I just couldn’t give her the time she needed or deserved. Those first few years raising little humans is demanding of the parents time and attention to say the least.
So I did the best I could those early Momming years. My focus was on the babies and their needs. I’ve learned that prioritizing me and my health is pivotal in my ability to turn around and be the mom I aspire to be every moment for my children. That seems obvious, that sentence should be followed with a big “DUH!”.
Maybe some people just slide into parent roles easily, maybe others never fully slide but just adapt it to fit them, and congratulations to them. It wasn’t simple for me, maybe it wasn’t for others? As I heal and grow, I have found tools that work for me. I’ve found supports that empower me and encourage me. I’ve developed relationships beyond what I thought ever possible to support and encourage me and my dreams- *gasp* Beyond motherhood?
I am a mom. I have three little humans. I’m more than that. I am still a whole individual outside of my role as a mother. I am a mom and I want to help other moms in their journey through motherhood and beyond.
Happily I introduce BrilliantlyBee (2.0 😂) I am looking forward to connecting with moms, dads, & parents of all shapes, colors, & dynamics! I am offering support and encouragement to those who are interested in self-development, self-care, & seeking clarity and calm.
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